Monthly Archives: February 2016

What To Do Instead of Yelling (For You & Your Kids)

“Put your toys away!”

“For the third time…”

“Are you even listening?”

“Ugh!”

Heard these before?  Said these before?  Lot’s of times when dealing with kids, we loose our temper.  Kids lose their tempers, too.  It happens, it’s going to happen.  The amount of times it happens is something we can change.

Ephesians 4:29 says, “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.”   Today, I want to crack this verse open.

In my opinion, unwholesome talk is anything not uplifting, relevant, or praiseworthy.  Now,  in NO way am I saying that every word we say must be serious and down to business…..Trust me, I laugh more in this house and I like being silly.  But, unwholesome talk is wrong.  That means yelling and gossip is not good.  As this verse says, whatever we say should benefit those who hear it.  Yelling is not helpful.

Yelling occurs mostly out of anger.  We are going to get angry every once in a while.  When dealing with our anger, yelling is not the option.  There are ways to prevent yelling and exploding in anger.

4 Ways to Prevent Yelling

  1. Patient 5 – When you or your child feel like you are about to explode, use your hand to guide you.  Using your fingers, follow these five steps to calm down.  On your first finger, close your eyes and take a deep breath.  On the second finger, ask what is truly making you upset.  Be realistic.  On the third finger, put yourself in the other person’s shoes.  What might they be angry about?  On your fourth finger, say a prayer asking for patience and the ability to work out your feelings.  On your last finger, calmly begin a conversation with the other person.
  2. Mouse Voice – At the moment anger is rising, become a mouse.  Speak in a quiet, calm voice.  This tone will help to keep your tempers under control.
  3. Silly Word – Instead of yelling, say a silly word like “Bubbaleepig!”  It’ll take away some tension, too.
  4. Timer – Set a timer for 5 minutes where both arguing parties take a break and collect their thoughts.  Then, have a calm conversation.

patient 5

Have a wonderful day!

Shoe Box Valentine Holder

This Friday (more than likely) is the day in which schools will celebrate Valentine’s Day.  During this, kids usually pass out little (and absolutely adorable) Valentine cards.  With all the cards and no where to put them…..let’s just say that’s a big problem.  I’m writing this today to solve that problem by creating the Shoe Box Valentine Holder.

This box is a super easy and fun way for kids to express creativity while preventing a possible disaster of loose Valentines.

All You Need Is: a shoe box, wrapping paper, and any heart/Valentine decorations!  We  mainly used cut out hearts and glitter stickers!

To Make Your Shoe Box Valentine Holder: Wrap a regular sized shoe box in wrapping paper.  I used red because it looks lovey and it acts as a simple background.

red box

Cut a 3 inch rectangular slit in the middle of the shoe box.  This is where the Valentines will go.

slit

hearts around slit

Then, cut out hearts from construction paper and use stickers to decorate.  I used tape, but glue would work on the wrapping paper.  When decorating the box, try not to cover the slit.  Also, keep in mind that the hearts can overlap and bend over the edges of the box.  Not every part needs to be covered.

hearts cut out

big cut out heart

Be open and let your kids go crazy with creativity!

heart box

heart box angle

heart box side

Plus…..for a little extra fun, “write” your child’s name on their box with duct tape (example below).  You can also use duct tape to make a border on Valentines!

name on heart box

duct tape heart

Wishing you and yours an amazing Valentine’s Day!

happy heart day

P.S.  I may have a duct tape problem/obsession! 🙂